These days its hard to find a man who is a leader. I personally always encounter with so many guys who are most of them are followers.They are not daring enough to try something which hasn't been done by others before.Nor at least be daring enough to explore new things in life.
I always see my father as a great leader. Despite the fact he is just an average guy making a leaving to support his family.My father is a very hands on, know his way in life and his always managed to pull himself through.
My father is an ultimate man! Im not saying this is because his my father, no!. But he does though. He can fix things, he can clean the house, he can cook. Easy to say he can do anything!
I do have to thank my grandmother for it. My father was brought up by a very strict military.Being the oldest son in the family, his parents was very strict towards him. His their pride and joy to say the least.
If he didnt get good grade in school, he will get the beating of his life as what my dad called it during the days. My father said, he doesn't feel what love means when he was growing up. His mother doesn't hug, kiss him like other moms do. Beating, slapping is normal for him growing up.So from there, my dad learn how to survive and to become a leader from there thanks to his strict parents.
My mom came from a very poor family.She's the oldest daughter in the family she felt that its her responsibility to help her parents and also her 8 other siblings. My mom was taught to do house work since shes 6-7 years old. Go into the woods, pick up logs, go to the padi fields before she's off to school. Yet again, she managed to get good grades and continue her degrees and master with scholarships.
Based on my mom and my dad up bringing, both of them to me are a great leader. A perfect example and role models for their siblings and also to their daughter ( me and my sister ).
I wasn't a fan of the parenting skill when I was a teenager. Because of that, i was so afraid to get married and have kids of my own because of not liking my parents parenting skills. I was the only daughter for 13 years before we had my sister. So being the only daughter before she came along was nothing special. Thats why when other say its a privilege to be born as the only child in the family is completely bullshit.
To them, there's no such thing as 'anak manja' or 'anak emas'. If i did something wrong, I would get beat up by my dad. Belt, hanger, stick of wood, golf clubs, bamboo you named it. I had everything.I didnt like it at all. Thats why when i went to college, I started to experience things. I started to become so rebellious. College days was the time when i really experience all sort of things which i wouldn't elaborate on that.
When my parents found out, I tought that im going to die in the hands of my mom and my dad. The beating is just so torturing up to a point where I told my self, if i die in their hands, i hope they satisfy. No mercy whats so ever. And because of my foolish actions , I saw my dad cried for the first time ever in my entire life.
My dad say ' we'll did this for you! '. Then when i replied " BULLSHITT!! ", another session of beating continued.
But fast forward to today, make me realized, I am the person, the woman, the individual that I am now is because of my college experience and also because of my parents.
So to my mom and my dad,
Thanks for beating my ass without mercy. If it wasn't for you, I don't know what kind of person I will turn into and I wont be the wife and the mother that I am right now.
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