The term queen control is common among all of us. Isn't it right? Dalam erti kata lain, 'queen control' implies on lelaki or husband yang takot bini. Tapi bile kita tanya pada kaum2 adam, jawapan mereka adalah 'bukan takot bini... sayang bini'.. hahahah!
Honestly speaking, some times aku dapat tengok abah aku banyak mengalah pada mak aku on many terms on running the house hold. Most major decision abah would consult mak or bile die ade masalah, he will tell my mom only when the problem is solved.
Today for example. My mom is away to her trip to Indonesia.So i thought abah was pretty much happy knowing that he can play his golf without any calls from my mom asking when his coming home and what to cook for dinner. But i can see that abah was abit down. I asked him whats wrong. He said he miss my mom. aaauww! dah tue pun perangai cam bebudak. Pang kang!
So i told him 'ala bile mak ade, bising.. bile xde baru tau'...From there, it occurred to me to asked abah whenever he feels that mak was controlling his life coz from the way i see it, she does. Abah gave me that look and said what make me think that mak is controlling him.As i told him afew of my point, abah laughed.
Abah : " your mother never controls me nor any of her siblings"
Me : " are u sure? amok kept on complaining about mak yang sume decision kene ikot die"
Abah : " You have to understand. Mak tak ade father figure in her life since she was teenager. Regardless pak long is still around, shes used to the idea of taking care of everyone. Mak mase summer break dekat UK, orang lain enjoy. Abah ajak pegi dating die tak nak. Sebab die kate raya nak dekat n nak belikan adek2 die baju raye"
Me : " I didnt know that.."
Abah : : " That's one thing you didnt know about mak.. Mak finds a piece of mind bile die tau orang yang die care most in life are in good hands. She never selfish.. Die pentingkan orang lain dari diri sendiri. Thats your mom. and i can see a great deal of her in you".
Me : " I think so"
Abah said mase belom kawen, mak never control abah. Knowing abah was a "playboy" during his golden years dekat Sunderland, mak still stick around with abah and relax. Mak tak pernah jealous gile babi sampai abah nak lepak ngan classmate perempuan abah pun mak tak kasi. Mak is very flexible.
Bile da kawen pun, mak let abah make the major decision. But bile she thinks that something is wrong, she will say something is wrong. Even dengan husband die sendiri. She will argue about it. Abah jenis yang x suke confrontations.. Especially when it comes to mak. Sebab die paling tak suke susahkan hati mak n buat mak nanges. Sayang bini !!! ke takot bini abah?? hahahaha
Being the alpha woman in the relationship actually is not a bad thing after all. For instance, In my past relationship, i seldom controls or take charge in the relationship. When i was dating arwah Adam, his the one who 'wears the pants' in the relationship. Im just enjoying the moment. When i was with kamil, im the one who controls the relationship entirely coz he was 1 year younger than me and he lives towards his age aparently. IMMATURE!
Now, im with Ah Gee, I still control him sometimes. Not in the sense of die nak lepak dengan colleague die pun aku mara2 n tak kasi. I dont mind at all coz i know deep down his the type of person who knows boundaries. Even if keluar dating and i caught him looking at staring at any hot girls, i dont mind at all. Coz thats how guy is. Thats their nature.At least i know his normal. Memang da lumrah Allah cipta lelaki ni akan tertarik pada perempuan. So there's no point us girls nak mara-marah die just because you caught him watching porn or tengok pompuan lain sampai nak juling mate.
I remembered one time he told me ade pompuan dekat terminal senyum dekat die.
Ah Gee : " Tadi ade passenger senyum dekat i. So i senyum balik"
Me : " oh... okay.. then ?"
Ah Gee : " Itu jew. U jangan la marah. dah die senyum. i senyum la balik"
Me : " jadah i nak marah.. kalo time tu i ade, i suruh u amek no.phone die skali".
Aku memang tak kesah. My way is simple.If so his attracted to that kind of woman and if he thinks that by having hot, cute slinder girlfriend will make him happy, why the fuck his with me now kan? betol tak?
Back to the topic, even now after almost a year together sometimes i tend to control his life on daily basis. But not all aspects of his life aku control.Alot of time i asked him weather i control his life or not. He said he likes it. He feels like for the first time, he feels like his life terurus. From his previous girlfriends, aku sorang aje yang he lets to run his life. Coz i was good at it.. Buttom line, HE LOVE'S IT! Since then, he sees me alot more as wife rather that his girlfriend. But dont get me wrong, there are afew things that he control my life as well. He control my credit card, he controls my spending and he guide me on certain things which is out of my hand.
So, i can say that me and Ah Gees' relationship are very flexible.. But sometimes whenever he start making stupid decision,i will get pist off.So he has to bare with me nagging to him. I told him so many times. Im not like any other girls you dated before. I maybe be the most macho and boyishly like girlfriend but i love you the most among all of them.. That i can guarantee you. I wont leave him just becoz his not financially stable nor i would leave him just to get back to my ex!.. ONLY stupid dumb fucks leave such a nice, sweet boyfriend like Ah Gee.
He always said that his working really hard just because he wants to provide for me n his children in future.Maybe for now he cant buy me stuff or even buy me a teddy bear like any other couple, but one day i know he will and his capable to buy anything i want n be a good father n husband. As for, im willing to be the Female Alpha...
Lastly, i love being the Alpha female in the relationship.Without the man, there's pointless being a woman and without the woman, man's life are totully Haywire.
Honestly speaking, some times aku dapat tengok abah aku banyak mengalah pada mak aku on many terms on running the house hold. Most major decision abah would consult mak or bile die ade masalah, he will tell my mom only when the problem is solved.
Today for example. My mom is away to her trip to Indonesia.So i thought abah was pretty much happy knowing that he can play his golf without any calls from my mom asking when his coming home and what to cook for dinner. But i can see that abah was abit down. I asked him whats wrong. He said he miss my mom. aaauww! dah tue pun perangai cam bebudak. Pang kang!
So i told him 'ala bile mak ade, bising.. bile xde baru tau'...From there, it occurred to me to asked abah whenever he feels that mak was controlling his life coz from the way i see it, she does. Abah gave me that look and said what make me think that mak is controlling him.As i told him afew of my point, abah laughed.
Abah : " your mother never controls me nor any of her siblings"
Me : " are u sure? amok kept on complaining about mak yang sume decision kene ikot die"
Abah : " You have to understand. Mak tak ade father figure in her life since she was teenager. Regardless pak long is still around, shes used to the idea of taking care of everyone. Mak mase summer break dekat UK, orang lain enjoy. Abah ajak pegi dating die tak nak. Sebab die kate raya nak dekat n nak belikan adek2 die baju raye"
Me : " I didnt know that.."
Abah : : " That's one thing you didnt know about mak.. Mak finds a piece of mind bile die tau orang yang die care most in life are in good hands. She never selfish.. Die pentingkan orang lain dari diri sendiri. Thats your mom. and i can see a great deal of her in you".
Me : " I think so"
Abah said mase belom kawen, mak never control abah. Knowing abah was a "playboy" during his golden years dekat Sunderland, mak still stick around with abah and relax. Mak tak pernah jealous gile babi sampai abah nak lepak ngan classmate perempuan abah pun mak tak kasi. Mak is very flexible.
Bile da kawen pun, mak let abah make the major decision. But bile she thinks that something is wrong, she will say something is wrong. Even dengan husband die sendiri. She will argue about it. Abah jenis yang x suke confrontations.. Especially when it comes to mak. Sebab die paling tak suke susahkan hati mak n buat mak nanges. Sayang bini !!! ke takot bini abah?? hahahaha
Being the alpha woman in the relationship actually is not a bad thing after all. For instance, In my past relationship, i seldom controls or take charge in the relationship. When i was dating arwah Adam, his the one who 'wears the pants' in the relationship. Im just enjoying the moment. When i was with kamil, im the one who controls the relationship entirely coz he was 1 year younger than me and he lives towards his age aparently. IMMATURE!
Now, im with Ah Gee, I still control him sometimes. Not in the sense of die nak lepak dengan colleague die pun aku mara2 n tak kasi. I dont mind at all coz i know deep down his the type of person who knows boundaries. Even if keluar dating and i caught him looking at staring at any hot girls, i dont mind at all. Coz thats how guy is. Thats their nature.At least i know his normal. Memang da lumrah Allah cipta lelaki ni akan tertarik pada perempuan. So there's no point us girls nak mara-marah die just because you caught him watching porn or tengok pompuan lain sampai nak juling mate.
I remembered one time he told me ade pompuan dekat terminal senyum dekat die.
Ah Gee : " Tadi ade passenger senyum dekat i. So i senyum balik"
Me : " oh... okay.. then ?"
Ah Gee : " Itu jew. U jangan la marah. dah die senyum. i senyum la balik"
Me : " jadah i nak marah.. kalo time tu i ade, i suruh u amek no.phone die skali".
Aku memang tak kesah. My way is simple.If so his attracted to that kind of woman and if he thinks that by having hot, cute slinder girlfriend will make him happy, why the fuck his with me now kan? betol tak?
Back to the topic, even now after almost a year together sometimes i tend to control his life on daily basis. But not all aspects of his life aku control.Alot of time i asked him weather i control his life or not. He said he likes it. He feels like for the first time, he feels like his life terurus. From his previous girlfriends, aku sorang aje yang he lets to run his life. Coz i was good at it.. Buttom line, HE LOVE'S IT! Since then, he sees me alot more as wife rather that his girlfriend. But dont get me wrong, there are afew things that he control my life as well. He control my credit card, he controls my spending and he guide me on certain things which is out of my hand.
Orang kate lelaki yg kene control ni 'jantan xde teloq'.Tapi cube korang lelaki pikir, mak korang pompuan kan? mase kecik sape yg banyak spend mase tuk besarkan korang? mak kan.. So queen control gak ke tuh?
So, i can say that me and Ah Gees' relationship are very flexible.. But sometimes whenever he start making stupid decision,i will get pist off.So he has to bare with me nagging to him. I told him so many times. Im not like any other girls you dated before. I maybe be the most macho and boyishly like girlfriend but i love you the most among all of them.. That i can guarantee you. I wont leave him just becoz his not financially stable nor i would leave him just to get back to my ex!.. ONLY stupid dumb fucks leave such a nice, sweet boyfriend like Ah Gee.
He always said that his working really hard just because he wants to provide for me n his children in future.Maybe for now he cant buy me stuff or even buy me a teddy bear like any other couple, but one day i know he will and his capable to buy anything i want n be a good father n husband. As for, im willing to be the Female Alpha...
Lastly, i love being the Alpha female in the relationship.Without the man, there's pointless being a woman and without the woman, man's life are totully Haywire.
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